"CAREAPY™ "

There is a distinction between listening and hearing. Hearing is a function of the physical. If you have the right parts in your head, the stirrup, the anvil, the ear drum etc you can hear. Listening however is a function of the emotional. What you listen to has an emotional impact on you. Listening is your interpretation of what you hear, or the spin you put on what you hear. 

For instance if you hear me say the word, "Mustang", what do you listen to? What did your mind do with that word, Did you interpret that word to mean a horse? What color horse? How big was it? Did it bring back a memory of a horse you used to ride? Did your mind interpret, Mustang" to mean a car? What year was it? What color was it? Was there any emotion involved in that interpretation? Did it remind you of a car you used to own? The Mustang I was referring to was the one in Nevada. You know the Mustang Ranch.

Now if you hear me say the word, "Crest", what did you listen? What did your mind do with the word, "Crest"? Was it the top of a wave? Was it the top of a hill? Was it Toothpaste? The Crest I was referring to was a coat of armor. The Family Crest. 

Can you start to see that what we listen to has an emotional impact on us. For instance if you are driving your car down the highway and you hear a train whistle blow it doesn’t have a big impact on you. You have heard a lot of train whistles blow in your lifetime; but if your car is stalled on the railroad track and you hear a train whistle blow you listen to it. The emotion starts, the adrenaline kicks in and you use that emotion to get out of the car and out of the way of the train. So what you listen to has an emotional impact on you.

What we listen to mostly is that little voice in our head. You know the voice I am talking about? The voice that has something to say about everyone and everything. We call it our mind. We listen to our mind as if it knows what it is talking about. We think it is telling us the truth.

Our Mind is a survival mechanism with four survival levels as follows:

1) Our mind makes us right and everyone else wrong. Have you ever noticed how right you are about how things are? We have a survival need to be right.

2) The second survival level is that when we are wrong our mind makes us right about being wrong. It justifies how come we are wrong.

3) The third survival level of our mind is that it gives us all the reasons why it won’t work, why we shouldn’t even try, we don’t deserve it and why were not good enough.

4) The fourth survival function of the mind is to give us all the reasons why it will work, why we do deserve it, why we should go for it and why we are good enough to have it.

We have selective listening and what we listen to mostly is that we are right and everyone else is wrong. Again notice how right you have been in your life. Now the question I would like to ask you is, "Would you rather be right or alive and in love?" Some people would rather be right. 

When we are being right all the time it makes it very difficult for other people to support us because we are right and they are wrong so how could the possibly support us. If they are trying to support us and we are right and they are wrong there comes a point when we feel as if they are attacking us or pressuring us. When that happens then we try to defend ourselves and if that continues then we will attack back. When we feel attacked or pressured, we defend ourselves and then attack back we call that kind of listening - "Criticism". Criticism occurs between our ears. Criticism is a way of listening when we are right and others are wrong. This kind of listening always leads to upsets and fighting with people.

There is another way of listening however that will allow us to receive support from other people and that kind of listening we call "Correction". When we listen, "Correction", we know that the other person can see things that we can’t, that they have our highest good in mind and they want us to be happy and successful. When we listen, "Correction" we listen as if the other person is right about what they are saying. That they know what they are talking about.

 We say they are right and the moment we say they are right what we get to be right about is that they are right and we will see what they are pointing to. . It makes things clear to us and helps us to change the circumstances.

For instance there was a time when a bunch of us went down to Atlantic City for several days to have fun and relax. I am not a big gambler, but I can spend an evening in the Casino with $100 and have a great time. Well while we were there I was winning and had won every night. The last night the guys all went to the Casino and the girls all stayed back at the hotel. While at the Casino I started losing in fact I had lost everything I had won all week.

So I called Barbara and I said, "Honey I am losing tonight and I was wondering if you could tell me what you see is going on with me". She said, "I thought you would never ask" and laughed. She said, "you could come home and bring me my half". Then she said, "I think you have been in your ego. You have been bragging about what a great gambler you are all week and now your ego is paying you back". I said, "you know you are right". In the moment I made her right every time I had been bragging about being a great gambler passed right before my eyes. I saw exactly what she saw and she was right about it. I asked her "do you think I should keep playing or should I come home"? She said, "well if you want to stay and play and have fun go ahead but if you think it’s going to make you good enough then don’t bother just come on home". I decided to stay and play for a while longer and won back everything I had lost that evening. I was just having fun and not trying to prove that I was a good enough gambler.

When Barbara told me what she saw going on with me I listened correction and it helped me to see what was going on and how to shift it. I could have made her wrong and would never been able to shift my attitude. Listening correction helps us receive the help we need from people we love without creating an upset. If upset is happening you can rest assured you are listening criticism, you are being right and they are wrong. "But they are wrong", right.

In this "Distance Learning Course", we will be sharing information with you that may go against what you already believe. If you listen that you are right and we are wrong it will be difficult for you to get the value that is available in this work. If you would set your righteousness aside and listen "correction", or make us right about what we are saying, then you would be able to see or get exactly what we are talking about and it would help you heal the circumstances. What we will be sharing with you during this course is that which we have discovered while working with thousands of people over the many years we have been facilitating the "Alivening Weekends". This information has helped them heal in every area of their lives, mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially and it will help you heal also.

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